Good Dating Profile Pics

Profile Photography and how it impacts your SUCCESS rate on dating sites after the age of 50, 60 or 70.

If you don’t put at least one photo on your dating site profile, you’ll be missing 80% of possible interactions with potential dating prospects. But put up a BAD photo or the WRONG types of pictures on your dating site, and you could end up with a 100% rejection rate. So what makes a GOOD vs BAD dating profile picture (profile photo)?

Very good vs very bad profile pics on dating sites: The Difference

  • First, dating profiles are about VISUALS as much as they are about WORDS, INTERESTS, travel goals, career paths and demographics.
  • You need at least 3 photos – GOOD photos – to make an impact.
  • They also need to be RECENT (within 12 months or less).
  • The key ingredients are as follows:
    • A good angle of the face with flattering lighting
    • Composition and colour  – what you’re wearing and where you’re ‘staged’ (what’s behind or around you)
    • Variety and interest in at least ONE of the full-body photos

Profile Pics and Profile Photos

The trouble with photos on the over 50s and over 60s dating profiles or LinkedIn profiles

Most of us over the age of 50 are concerned about how we have aged, and we’re not overly thrilled with our photos.

The key concerns are:

  • being reluctant to smile or radiate confidence
  • worrying about how our teeth look or if we’ve lost a bit of hair (or all of it, as so many of us over 50 and 60 have)
  • changes to our skin (scars or pigment “liver spots”)
  • wrinkles, lines, crow’s feet and puffy eyelids
  •  looking older than the prospective partners we would most like to meet (who happen to be a younger)
  • not having anyone around to take good photos OR 
  • having someone around who’s impatient about taking photos and taking poorly-composed ones 
  • being embarrassed to ask someone to take the photos as then they’ll know we’re using online dating sites 

Where people get their profile pics wrong – and how to get get your photos RIGHT.

  • The good news is you don’t NEED to feel embarrassed
    • nearly EVERYONE accepts online dating now as a way to meet in modern times
    • over half of single people report they’ve used online dating sites such as BUMBLE, TINDER, POF, RSVP, ELITE SINGLES and EHARMONY or MATCH
  • Over 15% of individuals polled said they met their current long-term spouses or partners using dating sites or dating apps (a higher percentage for over 40s and over 50s)
  • Also, it’s not that difficult to get a good shot. It’s all about the setting, angle, lighting and attitude – have fun with the shoot and let the camera roll.
  • Remember, get your photographer to take 1000 shots if needed – give yourself plenty of choices and you’re sure to get a few you really like.

Getting ready for your PROFILE PHOTO session  – photography basics

  1. First, if you’re very overweight, try to spend 2-5 months getting fitter BEFORE you face the camera 

    • Being fitter builds confidence and helps with circulation
    • It also leaves you feeling more comfortable in front of the lens
    • The more comfortable you are about how you look, the better the photos will be
  2. Second, if you have very crooked teeth, missing teeth or they’ve yellowed significantly, consider a trip to the DENTIST

    • You SHOULD smile in at least 2/3 of your photos, or ideally in all of them
      • If there’s an issue with your teeth OR
      • If you feel self-conscious about your smile
    • See your Dental team well in advance of your photo shoot

  3. Third, make sure you have a flattering haircut/hairstyle, hair colour and near-face accessories if desired

    • Bald and concerned? Make sure you have flattering glasses and take some photos with a hat on or scarf to show diversity
    • Craggy neckline or saggy jowls? Wear a cravat or scarf, but make sure it’s the RIGHT colour to flatter your skin tone (Get skin-tone colour matched if you haven’t ever done so).
    • Makeup goes a long way – and that’s for all genders. A bit of tinted face cream or a light mineral powder helps hide skin colouration problems and smooths those lines.
  4. Fourth, for at least a few days (and ideally a few months) before the photo shoot, drink LOTS of water and avoid substances and environmental factors that can AGE you.

    • Avoid all smoking and avoid alcohol for several days to weeks before the photo session
    • Drink lots of plain water for several days and ideally 2 weeks before the session, but reduce water intake slightly in the days just before the shoot, so that your body doesn’t retain water (yet still stay hydrated)
  5. Get a facial (all genders) a few weeks before the film session and make sure you’re using the RIGHT cleansers and moisturisers at home.

    • Retinol products can smooth older skin and give it a glow – you may need a cosmetic doctor’s prescription 
    • Good exfoliants smooth out the skin and encourage cellular renewal – get home care recommendations from a Dermal Clinician
    • Dermal fillers and anti-wrinkle injections can help a lot (they don’t call it the ‘liquid facelift’ for nothing!
      • If you’re going to use cosmetic injections, these need to be done about 4 to 7 weeks before your photo shoot (allow enough time for a top-up)
      • Remember, these are prescription drugs and have consequences and risks – choose your practitioner very carefully
      • If your EYES are really looking tired, puffy and aged, consider having eyelid surgery (allow 2-5 months from consultation to surgery recovery and see a Specialist Surgeon because surgeries like this can be very RISKY in the wrong hands)
  6. Choose someone with an artistic eye and a talent with proper angles or lighting

    • Your PHOTOGRAPHER needs to be specially trained with working with ageing faces to place them in the best perspective
    • Choose a patient photographer who has expertise in taking photos of people in your age group
    • Look at photos of stars around your age, and find ones you like – bring a copy of these with you to your photographer to see if those angles/backgrounds and lighting might be good for YOU as well
    • Your photographer needs to take 1000 shots (500-800 is a good range) on the day and you need to be able to see some of those as you’re going, to give feedback
    • Trust the photographer’s eye on selections too – ask around – don’t just choose the ones YOU like best, but run them by your children, neighbours or friends as they may have an even better idea of which images are the most flattering 

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